Jack Heald

There are two types of apologies:

1. An apology for what you did
2. An apology for what you are

Sometimes the first type of apology is appropriate. Sometimes what you did was wrong, or thoughtless or self-indulgent and it hurt someone. You could have chosen differently.

But the second type apology is never appropriate.

It is wrong to apologize for something beyond your control. And it is wrong for anyone else to expect it.

Never, never, never apologize for what you are.

My best-beloved is cardio-vascular ICU nurse. She works the 7pm-7am shift and has worked four of the last six nights, which means our schedules are exactly 12 hours out of sync with each other. She is also a marvelous cook; my friends are amazed I don’t weigh 400 pounds. Given these two facts, it should be unsurprising that we ended up at the midnight showing of Julie and Julia last night. She got to indulge her passion for food, and she’s up all night anyway, so what’s the big deal?  We had the theatre entirely to ourselves – there was no one else there. We enjoyed it. If you like Food Network, or like Julia Child, or just like Meryl Streep, you’ll probably like this movie.