“I love him, but when I kiss him, I feel nothing.”
Eve is one of my favorite people in the world. I’ve known her for years. And I think Adam is perfect for her. yet the relationship was failing.
Up until that comment, I thought I knew why: Eve is flighty, indecisive. maybe a little immature.
Yet her comment completely changed the picture.
They’ve become depolarized.
If you aren’t attracting the kind of woman you want as a life partner, maybe your problem is a lack of polarity.
Every successful male/female partnership works because the partners are polarized in opposite directions.
By “polarized”, I mean the same thing that a physicist means when discussing magnetism.
Masculine and feminine are energy polarities, just like positive and negative are energy polarities.
Where there is no polarity, energy doesn’t flow. Where energy doesn’t flow, there is no power. Where there is no power, there is no life. Are you in a relationship with no life? Then you are in a relationship with no polarity.
A relationship is like a battery. For energy to flow out of battery into your electronic widget, you need two things:
- A complete circuit from one pole of the battery to the other pole of the battery.
- A large difference in electrical charge between the two poles of the battery.
If you have a complete circuit, but still don’t get any power, then that means the battery is “dead.”
The term “dead” is misleading though. The truth is that the two sides of a “dead” battery – positive and negative – have the same valence.
A fully charged battery is one that has the maximum difference between the two sides. A dead battery has an identical charge on both sides.
Let’s examine in detail.
The two poles of a batter are called “positive” and “negative” because that describes the type of electrical charge inside the two compartments of the battery.
Energy flows between those two poles because there is a large difference between the electrical charges at the two poles.
It’s the nature of energy flows to tend toward a state of perfect uniformity. This is what we call entropy.
When the universe achieves perfect equality of electrical charges across all molecules, then that will be the end of everything.
When a relationship achieves entropy, then it’s over. There will be no more energy flow between two people who have been depolarized.
Eve and Adam live in Brooklyn. Their conversation is sprinkled with terms like “toxic masculinity” and “the patriarchy.” They’re big fans of socialism.
It’s a set of beliefs that – while not related – all tend to travel together, like strangers who share a taxi. One of the strangers who travel in that metaphorical taxi is Equity.
Equity is a nasty beast. Equity wants everyone to be the same. In other words, Equity longs for the heat-death of the universe.
Equity works to eliminate gender differences. When Equity succeed, then sexual attraction is gone.
And that’s just what has happened to Adam and Eve. They reject “archaic” concepts like innate masculinity or innate femininity. However, their biology is archaic; they can’t eliminate that.
Eve is turned on by strong, decisive men who exude an air of competence, confidence and strength. She is repelled by feminine traits in a man because she is feminine.
What can you do to fix it?
You can vilify human nature, you can subvert human nature, you can ignore human nature, but you cannot remove it.
If the magic is gone from your relationship, the chances are very, very, very high that you’ve depolarized yourself.
Men: make a decision. Stick with it. Get strong. Get a mission and work your ass off to fulfill it. Your mission – not a woman – must be the focus of your life. The feminine woman cannot resist a man on a mission. Her biology will betray her, regardles of her political beliefs.
Polarize yourself to recharge your relationship.
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